14
Dec
2018

The Reasons

In addition, as the deluded sometimes feels some terrible hidden desires of infidelity and, on the other hand, it is believed better or superior to another / a, not cease to despise and attack by envy. Which, to make matters worse, continually blows to the ear without self-esteem of the offended: you not vouchers enough, your opponent was better, you removed power, hopefully you were like him, I wish he were dead so do you shade. And with all this the deluded hates and torments without a break (and even more so when, in addition, suffers paranoid traits). The fuming can’t forgive it is say, does not want to do so-, because you need to hate to follow feeling important and higher; to continue keeping its fictional control over things. In reality, this was always their basic – control to its partner-quest, and his inexhaustible rancor is proof that his love was never, after all, too strong (the narcissistic can not love, and partly for that reason same spouse moved away from them).

Why, finally, thousand pleas and regrets of the infidel, or even his definitive return to home, not comfort, nor move, nor they pacify the rancor of the offended narcissistic (1). How to cure this wound? How exit trap? Most immature people will never forgive, but they will elect the punishment, revenge, the final break. The most evolved will prefer recovered love (and the solution of the reasons that produced the infidelity) past humiliation, and will soon achieve peace. The problem lies in people suffering from an inner dilemma between their strong self-centred tendencies and its equally strong loving provisions. What do? Which way forward? In my opinion, only to the extent that these people manage to choose, to resolve his dilemma, whether it is bottoming out in her pain, either through personal growth (often with the help of a psychotherapy), may permanently cure your pain. __ 1. This attitude can lead a new infidelity, and so on.

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